Woman Hires Private Investigator to Follow Boyfriend and His ‘Work Wife,’ Finds That He’s Been Lying About ‘Staying late at the office’

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Nov 7, 2024 4:00 PM EST

The phrases 'work wife' and 'work husband' have entered our colloquial vernacular overnight. Who decided this is okay? Personally, I think it's a little cringe. If you're both single, it just comes off as immature and withholding. Just date if you are already calling them husband and wife. But if you're in a relationship…it's even weirder. Imagine calling a male friend, 'second boyfriend,' to your partner? This nomenclature isn't meaningless. If it's just friends, then why does their title imply that you're already married? 

This takes us to the Reddit thread. In this story, the woman's boyfriend refers to a coworker of his as 'work wife.' She's initially okay with it, until his behavior starts to change. This switch induces her skepticism. She goes as far as to hire a private investigator to see if her boyfriend is really where he says he is. Ladies, if it looks like a duck, it's a duck.   

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    r/AITAH 6 hr. ago Prior-Writer8312 AITA for hiring a private investigator to follow my boyfriend because his "work wife" gives me bad vibes?
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    So, here's the deal. I (26F) boyfriend (28M) has a "work wife.” At first, I thought it was no big deal, even kinda cute that he had a friend at work he could vent to and joke around with. But lately, I've noticed he's been. talking about her a lot. He'll mention things she said, funny
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    jokes they shared, and even how she "totally gets him." And to make things worse, he's been working late and going to more "after-work drinks" than usual.
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    I confronted him a couple of times about it, and he laughed it off, saying I was being paranoid. So I decided to, uh... hire a private investigator to see if there was more going on. I honestly didn't think I'd find anything—I just wanted peace of mind.
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    Turns out, they went out for dinner last Friday after work. My boyfriend told me he was "wrapping up a project," but he was at a nice restaurant with her! When I confronted him with the evidence, he was furious, saying I had crossed a line and invaded his privacy. He insists it was an
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    innocent dinner and that he didn't tell me because he knew I'd "freak out." Now he's barely speaking to me, and a couple of friends I told think I went way overboard. But I just had a gut feeling, you know? AITA for hiring the PI?
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    Jazzlike-Addend... • 5h ago • Sweetie, he's cheating on you just dump them and find someone who will appreciate you
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    FallOdd5098 • 5h ago Your boyfriend has got two girlfriends. I would think about cutting that number in half.
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    Old_Aide_8097 • 5h ago • The concept "work wife" or "work husband" isn't cute...at all.
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    Impressive-Wel... • 6h ago he cheated and you caught him, you're not in the wrong he is for cheating instead of just breaking up with you
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    Leftturn0619 • 6h ago You had a feeling he was cheating and you are probably right. Friday night dinner with a coworker is inappropriate.
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    Square-Minimu... •5h ago. Now what? He has been lying to you and either cheating or about to cheat. Nta.
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    Sad Caterpillar_... ⚫ 5h ago NTA he's just mad because you're right
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    Extension Accid... 5h ago He's ped he got caught on a date with another woman... if things are so innocent he wouldn't need to lie and sneak around. He's willing to blow up his long term relationship for this lady. If he's not physically cheating,
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    he's at least emotionally cheating.
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    1stofallhowdare... • 5h ago • NTA. If someone is doing something in a relationship and doesn't tell you because "you would freak out" or "not like it" are doing something wrong. He should not be having dinners alone with some other woman
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    especially if you don't know about it. He freaked out on you because he knows he is in the wrong. He is absolutely cheating even if it isn't physical. But he won't stop, and the friends that are claiming you went overboard likely know about the cheating so they are just
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    trying to help him gaslight you. He made it clear being "friends" with her matters more than your feelings. Do you really want to be with someone like that?
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    Nucf1ash ⚫5h ago • So here's the thing for everyone else that's thinking about "confronting someone". Don't. You hired that PI for you, not for him. You hired him to know, not to tell. There is absolutely nothing that your boyfriend
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    will tell you that you want to hear after you already got your Pl report. Nothing. You want to hear he loves her and she means the world to him? No! You want to hear the he dished out that he didn't tell you because he knew you'd freak
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    out and so this is somehow your fault? No! You want to hear he's sorry and won't do it again? That's not so great, either. you want or need the adrenaline rush of a confrontation, have somebody else do it. Someone you trust and is
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    100% on your side and won't turn on you. That way you get to watch/hear all the excuse making and none of the "you're psycho" accusations. Which you just got a bowl of... yum yum. Okay, that was for everyone else. It doesn't help you. The rest is for you...
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    Unhappy_Energ... • 5h ago Work husband/wife is such a disrespectful term. If I ever had a partner say they had one, then I would be out of there so fast. You can have a 'work partner', but then you don't get me.
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    day-gardener • 5h ago • Why spend the money? He is emotionally invested in this woman. Dump him.
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    Ok-Willow5217 6h ago • You should've just dumped him if you had to go this far to find out your bf was cheating on you. But you were right and I don't blame you for wanting answers. Dump him.
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